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Therapy for Couples
For Partners Who Want to Rebuild Connection, Not Just Co-Exist
You’re functioning—but you’re not connecting.
You still love each other. But lately, it’s like you’re on different teams.
Maybe one of you is always reaching, while the other pulls away.
Maybe everything turns into an argument—or worse, a shutdown.
Maybe the sex is rare. The affection is awkward. The silence stretches longer each week.
You go to work. Handle the house. Show up for the kids.
But emotionally? You feel alone, even when you’re in the same room.
You’ve tried talking.
You’ve tried not talking.
You’ve read the books, followed the couples Instagram pages, maybe even had a few false starts in therapy.
But nothing’s sticking.
And now you’re both wondering: Can we actually fix this? Or are we just prolonging the inevitable?
When relationships start to feel like tension-filled negotiations—or polite co-parenting agreements—you know something’s off.
But it’s hard to fix a pattern when you’re stuck inside of it.
You may be holding it together on the outside, but this disconnect is taking a toll.
It’s harder to focus at work when you’re replaying last night’s fight—or bracing for the next one.
Your patience is thinner. Your stress response is higher. You’re snapping at each other over small things or avoiding real conversations altogether.
Even the wins feel flat when you don’t feel seen by your person.
You might be overfunctioning in other areas to make up for what feels broken at home. Or withdrawing emotionally because it hurts too much to hope things could be different.
It’s not that you want to leave.
You just don’t want to keep living like this.
You’re not broken. You’re stuck in a pattern that can be changed.
The truth is, most relationship issues aren’t about the dishes, the schedule, or the sex.
They’re about emotional safety—or the lack of it.
But when safety returns, so does softness.
The small moments start to matter again—like reaching for each other in the kitchen instead of reaching for your phone.
You’ll stop rehearsing arguments in your head and start having real conversations where you actually feel heard.
You’ll start waking up with a little more peace and falling asleep without that weight on your chest.
It won’t be perfect—but it will feel real.
More laughter. Less walking on eggshells.
More connection. Less guessing what the other person is feeling.
More team energy. Less tug-of-war.
And when life throws its next curveball?
You’ll know how to reach for each other—instead of retreating into silence or blowing up in frustration.
That’s the shift. That’s the healing.
That’s what we’re working toward.
You don’t have to keep walking on eggshells or tiptoeing around hard conversations.
In our work together, we won’t just teach you better communication tools (although we’ll do that too).
We’ll uncover what’s happening beneath the surface—the triggers, the attachment patterns, the raw spots you’ve been trying to protect.
Using Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFCT), we’ll identify the cycle that keeps pulling you apart—and help you create new patterns of interaction that build trust, closeness, and connection. This isn’t about blame or who’s “right.” It’s about learning how to reach for each other again—without fear, shutdowns, or resentment.
Together, we’ll build the kind of relationship where you both feel safe to speak, heard when you do, and connected even when it’s hard.
Therapy for Couples can help you...
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- Improve communication without blame, shutdowns, or escalation
- Identify and shift the negative cycles keeping you stuck
- Rebuild trust after emotional distance or betrayal
- Express your needs clearly without guilt or conflict
- Deepen emotional intimacy—even if you’re not “the emotional one”
- Navigate conflict as a team, not as opponents
- Reignite physical connection that feels safe and mutual
- Break patterns of defensiveness, withdrawal, or over-functioning
- Repair hurt from past arguments that never really healed
- Feel like you’re on the same side again—in love, in parenting, and in life
Let’s find your way back to each other.
FAQ's
Q: What if my partner doesn’t believe in therapy?
A: It’s not uncommon for one partner to feel more open to therapy than the other. I create a space where both of you can show up—whether you’re ready to dive in or feeling unsure. No one is blamed or forced into change. We move at a pace that feels respectful to both people.
Q: Will you take sides during sessions?
A: Nope. This isn’t about picking a “right” or “wrong.” My job is to help you both feel heard and understood while we work together to uncover the patterns keeping you stuck. I don’t play referee—I help you become teammates again.
Q: What if our issues seem too big to fix?
A: You’d be surprised what can heal with the right support. Even couples dealing with years of hurt, emotional shutdown, or recurring conflict can find a path forward. The key isn’t perfection—it’s willingness, safety, and new tools for connection.
Q: Can therapy still help if we’re not sure we want to stay together?
A: Yes. Sometimes the first step is getting clear on what you both want. Therapy can be a space to explore that honestly, whether your goal is to reconnect, redefine the relationship, or part ways with compassion and clarity.
Q: How long will we need to be in therapy?
A: It varies. Some couples come in for a few months to address specific issues; others stay longer to do deeper emotional repair work. We’ll discuss your goals together and regularly check in on progress to make sure the work is aligned with what you both need.